Your Husband Is So Easy To Please
Most women think that men are so complicated and we are not complicated at all. Men are simple creatures and very easy to please. If you follow these steps that I am about to share with you I guaranteed that you will see a big difference in your husband mood, attitude, and behavior towards you and your marriage.
I want to caution you that if you pick a husband who is disrespectful and do not honor you and his marriage vows, it might be challenging to agree with this post. However, people can change, and we are hoping that your spouse will. Or you can still use these tips to influence change in a spouse who might not necessarily deserve this kind of treatment.
Why do most wives think their husband is complicated? Most wives don’t take the time to study the anatomy and physiology of a man. You need to know why your husband thinks the way he does. Men are all alike in more ways than you know. When God created man, he put in us a particular type of coded DNA and all men need them to function as a man. It does not matter where in the world we come from, we all have the same genetic makeup that aids us in the development as a man. I did a survey about by asking about 100 married men what they wanted most from their wives and 98% of them said the same thing. I want to share some of them with you. If you learn to understand your man better you will know how to better serve and please him.
1. Don’t Try To Change Him Learn How To Understand Him
I hear this very often from wives “I don’t know who my husband is anymore. I want the man that I fell in love with and marry” It is safe to say that your husband probably feels the same way about you too. People change as they grow, but we must learn to grow together in our marriage rather than grow apart from each other. The man who you fell in love with is still there, but he is hidden. Do you remember when you were dating? You let him be himself, and it brought out the best in him. Do you remember how you use to pay attention and interest in everything that he does? You laugh at his corny jokes even though they were not even funny? What you forget as time passed in the marriage is these are the things which bring out the best in him and the best in you. Stop trying to change him and learn to understand who he is as a man. The more you learn how to understand and appreciate your husband the better you will be able to serve him.
2. God Created Him Differently From You
God created man and woman differently. Man thinks understand and process information differently from a woman. Man make decisions differently too and we don’t learn at the same pace or like the same things either.
Your husband has a hormone called testosterone. Most wives don’t know what testosterone does to a man. Testosterone is the hormone responsible for the development of male sexual characteristics. Testosterone is the primary male sex hormone and an anabolic steroid. In male humans, testosterone plays a vital role in the development of male reproductive tissues such as testes and prostate, as well as promoting secondary sexual characteristics such as increased muscle and bone mass, and the growth of body hair. Testosterone helps the man to be masculine, aggressive, determined, and independent. It gives him that Ego which frustrates the wife most of the time. One minute he wants to conquer the world, and in the next breath, he desires to love you and be loved. He is a man of steel, yet he has a velvet side which craves for your attention.
3. He Wants Respect
A man desire to be respected and honor. When you respect your husband it translates to love for him. A man wants to be held in high esteem and to be shown consideration and appreciation, even when he makes mistakes. He wants to be seen as a hero, especially in the eyes of his bride. In his book “Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage” Mark Gungor wrote “Most women are willing to show respect, but they want their men to be worthy of it. If he is not, a woman feels that showing respect is disingenuous and she moves into “I-had-better-correct-the-situation” mode. She believes she can respect her man only if she can get him to act respectable. But that is not how it works. Respect is too great a need for a man to have it come and go based on performance. If a woman will learn to risk respecting her man when he is not perfect, he will open his heart to her and will become pliable to change. A man needs respect to feel safe enough to open up”
This might not be easy to digest, but it is just the way a man thinks. There is a reason why Paul tells the wives to submit and honor their husband. Your husband needs respect just as much as you desire him to love and cherish you.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. Ephesians 5:22
4. He Wants Sex
Your husband desire sex, he needs it, and he cannot function well without it for very long. Sex does not make a marriage work, but it is almost impossible to make a marriage work without it. A man is so driven by sex, that he can have an argument with his wife during the day and come bedtime he will forget about what he did and desire his wife to have sex with him. Mind you his wife is still emotionally attached and connected to what he did. She is not even thinking about sex she would rather him not even sleep next to her. She will turn her back, put on some old clothes just to look unattractive to him. Some wives will say he is inconsiderate and don’t care about her feelings. That is not always the case; he does care about your feelings. This is how the man is wired. That is how a man operates, you want him to be like you, and he is not designed that way.
5. Practice the 4 A’s in Pleasing your husband
If you make your husband feel special, you increase his desire to do the same for you
Admire him and let him know you are doing it. Always look for the opportunity to draw attention to your husband positive qualities. For example: Praise him when you are with your friends. Speak positive things about him with your children, by drawing attention to his positive character and qualities. Let him know he is still a top priority on your list.
If you want your husband to be your superman, let him know how much you appreciate him. Say to him “Honey thank you for all that you do for the family. You are an amazing husband and a great father. I think I made one of the best choices in my life when I said yes to you. Thank you for being the priest, protector, provider, and spiritual leader of our home. I feel safe with you.” Do you know what you do to that man? You give him wings to fly. That man will not hang out with his boys after work he is running home to you.
Oh yes, you are not the only one who needs love and affection your husband needs it too. The next time he walks by you just slap him on his butt or squeeze them than pay attention to his response. Dress up for him, make him feel wanted, let him know you desire him too. Put that romantic love note in his lunch bag or briefcase. Text him something sexy throughout the day. Send him an audio message that has him running home from work. Meet him at the door and greet him with a kiss. Tell him you are glad that he is home. Go put on that shorts that he likes to see you in. Ladies, you know how to get that man attention go get.
Pay attention to your husband and let him feel important because he is. It does not matter where you are no other man is more important than your man. Every woman should know he is your man and you don’t have to be all over him in public to show that. They can look at you and know it. It does not matter where we go everyone will eventually know who my wife is or who her husband is. She gets the most attention regardless of where I am. We respect the environment we are in and who is there, but she will also get my attention. When your husband is talking to you, give him your undivided attention. Show interest in the things that he likes. Most men like sports most woman don’t. Sit with him and watch a game or two, ask him questions about the sports he likes and you will be surprised how these little simple technique can change your marriage.
What to do now!
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