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What are you a thermostat or a thermometer?

This past summer we had a few hot days which requires more air conditioning usage than normal. One of our AC units was not working properly. When we set the temperature, it would not reach set-point, which causes it to run continuously and waste more energy. I called an HVAC technician to come and look at it for us. After troubleshooting to find the problem, he told us we need to replace the thermostat. My wife asked him why the thermostat need changing. I knew why it had to change, but my wife needed clarity. The technician was nice enough to give my wife a quick refrigeration 101 lesson in about 5 minutes.
The technician started to explain to my wife and I the difference between a thermostat and a thermometer and what they are both used for. while he was explaining it to us, I thought about how it equates to people in marriage. The on again off again mood swing and attitude some of you have in your marriage. One minute you are in love the next minute you are threatening each other with divorce.

So are you a thermostat or a thermometer in the marriage? Let’s find out.

What is a thermostat?

To help you out let us look at their definitions and usage.
You might have a temperature control on a wall in your home to control the heating system but, although it’s probably marked in degrees, it’s not a thermometer. It’s called a thermostat, a modern-day word used with two ancient Greek words: thermo (meaning heat) and statos (which means to stay the same). We can tell just from its name that a thermostat is something that “keeps heat the same”: thermostat is designed to switch between heating and cooling base on the set temperature. For example, if you adjust the temperature for 70 degrees the thermostat maintain that set temperature until someone lowers it or increase it. If you need heating or cooling the Only thing thermostat does is maintain a set temperature.


A thermometer, on the other hand, is a tool that measures temperature — how hot or cold something is. For example, a thermometer measures the outside or indoor temperature. You cannot control a thermometer because all it does is reads whatever the temp is. If the temperature changes every 5 minutes the thermometer just measures it, but it cannot maintain a set temperature.

Which one are you in the marriage?

Now that you know the difference between a thermostat and a thermometer which one are you in your marriage? Are you a thermostat or a thermometer? I would recommend you to be a thermostat you set the temperature of your marriage, know when to turn up and when to turn down. You must know when to bring the fire and when to cool it down. Be the one to set the stage of the environment and maintain it regardless of what is happening around you. Don’t allow the outside elements or negative influence of others to change your behavior.

Don’t be a thermometer

A thermometer does not have control of their environment, one day they are feeling good about you and the marriage and the next day they don’t want you to look at them. They are like the swinging chandelier never a set moment always changing. A thermometer is controlled by what is happening around it. Some of you are operating as a thermometer, and that’s why your marriage does not have stability. If you want stability in your marriage, you can’t allow everything to affect you. Your husband runs a joke with you today it’s funny, and you laugh. Tomorrow he tells you the same joke, and you get mad. Your wife compliments you about something you did well, and you felt great hearing it coming from her. The next day you had a bad day, and you take it out on your wife.

Just Set It And Forget

Adjust the mode of your marriage. You and your spouse must decide just to set it and forget it. Tell yourself you are a thermostat in the marriage. You are not going to let anything on the outside change or influence the way you treat each other. There could be a cold blast going on in everyone marriages that you know. In your marriage make it up in your mind that you are going to set the stage, mood and environment you desire in your marriage.

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