True happiness does not come from these points I am writing about; true happiness comes from God. However, when a man adds these valuable things to his marriage, you will not find a happier wife.
A woman’s number one need is love. She was created to desire true love, and everything about her reacts to love. Love is so essential to a woman that God had to tell the man to love her. The man has no choice in this matter, as this is a command from God. To make the marriage work the man must obey the order of the kingdom of God, which is to love his wife. Husbands must tell their wives how much he loves her every day. Your expression of love is a driving force to how she responds to you.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her” Ephesians 5:25.
Notice God did not have to tell the woman to love the man because love comes naturally for her.
A woman needs affection in order to experience love from her husband. Affection is not sex; affection expresses how a woman is treated romantically. Affection is the emotional realm of love. Affection is one of the act of showing love. As mentioned this is the kind of love the wife desire from her husband. Affection leads to intimacy, and intimacy leads to sex for the woman. A wife response to sex is based on how she is treated leading up to sex, and not the act of it. In other words, what you do from the moment you wake up until bedtime determines how sexual she will be. A woman does not want affection she needs it.
It is every wife desire to have a great relationship with her husband. The word relationship comes from the word relate. To relate means; to tell or give an account of, to bring into or establish association or connection. A genuine relationship is very significant to your wife. Women were created for relationship. A relationship is an emotional or strong connection between two people, which helps to form the bond and commit a couple has for each other.
There is nothing more attractive to a woman than a man who knows how to communicate. A woman is fascinated with a man who knows how to articulate his thoughts and engage her in interesting conversation. One of the key components of a successful marriage is communication. Without it, your relationships can become very difficult. A wife will always find her husband super attractive if he learns how to communicate to her. A husband must talk to wives wife about their goals and visions and watch how she will come up with strategies on how to help bring them to reality. Your wife wants to help in every way she can, but in order for her to do so, your thoughts must be audible. She will take what you tell her, process it and bring you back answers that only she could.
Your wife needs you to listen to her. I found out growing up with my five sisters that a woman does not want you to solve their problems; they want you to listen to them. My sisters would engage me in conversations, and when I offered my opinion or solution to the problem, they would cut me off and tell me they don’t need my advice. I’m confused here; you explain to me a problem you are having, and I listened for the last 2 minutes. I offered my opinion and advice just to get rejected. My wife does the same thing sometimes. I found out that a woman in most cases is not soliciting you to solve their problems. They want you to be that listening ear. An exceptional communicator is not the one talking; it is the one who listens. The secret to her heart is to communicate and listen to her.
Your wife needs to know you can protect her and your children. She wants the assurance that when the going gets tuff, you are not going to pack a bag and run home to mama. She needs her man to be bold and strong. She needs her man to do whatever it takes to make the marriage work. She needs her man to lead her into worship and Bible study. She needs her man to set a Godly standard for her and her children. She needs to know that when it comes to the finances, her family comes first. A woman will always keep loving her husband who plays his role as a Kingdom man and husband especially when they do it God’s way.