The female eagle has a unique way of choosing her mate. Both men and women can learn from the process the female eagle put the male eagle through to see if he is qualified to mate her. One of the key lessons you will discover ladies, is that an eagle NEVER SETTLE-NO MATTER WHAT. One of the essential teachings a man can learn from this story is that a man must be prepared to pursue what he wants, and be willing to prove he is worthy and qualify for the pursuit.
When it comes time for the female eagle to choose her mate, she prepares herself for many suitors. She does not settle for the first male eagle who tries to get her attention. She does not settle because every other female eagle she knows has a mate. She practices self-control and wait while going through the process. Many male eagles will try to impress her. She will take her time and evaluate them over a period of time, make her decision based on her instincts and chooses a male Eagle to fly with for a while.
This is equivalent to dating, just because someone takes you out on a date does not mean he or she is the right one for you. The reason for dating is to see if this person is the right fit for you. The female eagle does not allow herself to become emotionally connected to the male eagle, but rather stick with her plan without any distractions. Her focus is to make sure he fits the profile she has in mind. She does not have the time to be fooling around with male eagles that has no character and values. The male eagle she chooses will be her mate for the rest of her life. She will not mate with another male eagle unless her mate dies. It is important to her not to rush the process. If you learn to take your emotion out of the initial dating phase and focus on the knowing phase you will be fine. Relationships are too important and yet complicated to be rushed into because it takes time to get to know someone. Remember to put logic before emotions and allow the spirit of God to lead you.
The female eagle will fly with the male eagle for a while and if she likes the way he flies, she will put him through a series of test. When you are dating or being pursued as a love interest and you are pleased and impressed with the way they are treating you, then you can move to what we called the Relationship Appraisal Process (RAP). This is where you ask the critical questions as it pertains to their intention of a relationship with you. This is similar to what the female eagle does. If the female eagle does not see the male eagle as a potential mate, they do not initiate the test but rather move on to the next male eagle trying to find a better fit.
Few Key Tests A Male Eagle Must Pass
TEST # 1
The female eagle picks up a piece of stick and flies high with it. At some point she will drop the stick to see if the male eagle can catch it. He is not qualified to be with her just by good looks he has to do some work. The male eagle has to show his proficiency in these tests and if he passes the first test she moves to the next.
TEST # 2
The female eagle finds a larger stick and flies with it much higher the second time around. Each time the male catches the stick, she continues with the next process. Some of you say yes to a man just because he is Christian. Some of you say yes to a woman because of their anointing or their beauty. A man can be good to you and not necessarily good for you. A woman can be good to you and not good for you. If the man is not in a position to marry he should not be pursuing a serious relationship.
Again, the female eagle picks up a larger piece of stick and even flies higher and drops it. If he wants her that bad, he must be willing to prove himself. If the male eagle drops the stick, he is automatically disqualified. There are no second or third chances.
She then finds the largest stick that she can carry, and at this point the stick is the size of a small log! She can still fly very high with this large stick. At any time in this process, if the male fails to catch the stick, she flies away from him as her signal that the test is now over and she begins her search all over again. Her character and integrity will not allow her to settle, and she will not compromise her reputation for love. She will not lower her standard to fit the male eagle. Some of you are doing just that in your pursuit of love.
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The Female Eagle Will Start The Process All Over Again
When the female eagle finds a male eagle she is interested in, she starts testing him in the same way. And she will continue this “testing” process until she finds the male eagle that can catch all the sticks. And when he does, she chooses him and will mate with him for life. Get this; she will mate with him for life. She is not flip-flopping, she’s not into you one day then the next day she wants to be with someone else and she will stay committed until the day she dies.
One of the reasons for this test is at some point they will build a nest together high up and will then have their eaglets. When the babies begin to learn to fly, they sometimes fall. It is the responsibility of the male to catch his young. Because he passed the test during the dating process, she knows that he capable of protecting her and her young eaglets when something goes wrong.
I am still confused as to how anyone would settle when it comes to finding a mate knowing this is one of the most important decisions you will need to make in your life.
Did He Pass Your test? Did She Pass Your Test?
Did you go to God and ask Him if this is His will for your life? Don’t forget that they come with a brain too and they are using it to impress you. They will use it to manipulate you as well. Too often you settle rather than deal with the fact that they have failed to show they are qualified to be the one.
I still believe that the man is the one who pursues the woman and so that gives the woman a big advantage on accepting or rejecting a love interest.