What The Bible Says
First, let me declare that sex is designed by God for marriage. Growing up most of us think of sex as a little dirty game adults play because it is devalued by our society. There is nothing dirty about anything that God created. When sex is misused and not respected, it is often looked at that way. Sex was created by God for marriage and it must be enjoyed in the institution that it was created for. Most of us were taught that God created sex only for procreation. That is not the whole story; that is just part of it. Sex was designed for more reasons than just making babies.
Rather than prohibit sexual pleasure, the Word of God shows that it is a gift from God to married couples. Everything that God created, he declared it was good, sex is good for marriage.
“So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman’, for she was taken out of a man.” Genesis 2:21-23
A woman is a man with a womb. The woman was pulled out of the man. Therefore, a woman is the crowning jewel of creation, not the man. When a husband looks at his wife, he is looking at a more beautiful gorgeous defined image of himself.
When God brought the man and woman together in marriage, he said that “they must become one flesh”. ( Genesis 2:24) The oneness of the marriage takes place during a sexual encounter. The joining and bonding happens during the pleasure of sexual intimacy coupled with close emotional, spiritual and physical connection.
“Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame” Genesis 2:25.
God presented a naked woman before Adam. Why did God introduce her naked, and why didn’t Eve cover herself when she saw the man looking at her? They were both holy and righteous in the sight of God. There was nothing to be ashamed of because they did not have a sinful nature. God was demonstrating to us how we should be in our marriage. We should be naked and not ashamed, loving each other with unconditional love, yet from a romantic and passionate place. Sexual intimacy is the highest and most profound way you will ever communicate with your spouse. It is a scared way to get to know each other. Husband and wife who love and care for each other must copulate and bond regularly in a sexual way. This is the will of God for your marriage. Something spiritual happens when a husband and wife get together in sexual harmony.
And Adam knew Eve, his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the Lord. Genesis 4:1
The word “knew” in this scripture verse is talking about a sexual encounter. They had a sexual relationship that brings pleasure and harmony to their marriage. Husband, please take note, Adam communicates sexually to his wife. They had to have a relationship with each other that goes deeper than the marital bedroom.
Husband and Wife Must Enjoy Each Other’s Body
The Bible describes the pleasure that husbands find in marriage with these words:
“Rejoice with the wife of your youth. Let her own breasts intoxicate you at all times. With her love may you be in an ecstasy constantly.” (Proverbs 5: 18,19)
God is pleased when a husband is enjoying his wife’s body. If you read the book Songs of Solomon, you will see a profound narrative of this subject. By the way, for those of you who think King Solomon was only referring to God and the church, you are wrong. Solomon was in Love with the Shulamite woman and he was also writing about his love for her. He also had 300 wives and 700 concubines. With all these women in his life, please for God’s sake, don’t tell me he was just writing about his love for God. Yea right.
God also intends for wives to enjoy sex. The Bible says: “Husbands and wives should satisfy each other’s sexual needs.”
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. Corinthians 7:3-5.
A husband must take pride in making sure that his wife’s sexual desire is met. It brings honor and glory to God when you do. Anything that God created He called it good. Sex is good for marriage, not just for procreation.
Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers.” Hebrews 13:4
Please don’t think that this gives you the freedom to bring pornography and all that Jezebel spirit stuff in your marital bedroom. And then you wonder why your spouse is fantasizing about threesome, aliens and all this madness. Get your mind right in Jesus Name. Keep your eye on what God blessed you with. And avoid all forms of infidelity.
Married couples must be faithful and maintain their commitment to each other. They find the greatest delight, not by pursuing selfish gratification, but by applying the Biblical principle of marriage “There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.” Acts 20:35. Make a commitment to give the best of you to your spouse.