Finding a Wife
The most meaningful and personal relationship a man can have, outside of his spiritual relationship with God, is the relationship he has with his wife. When a man is in the process of looking for a mate, one of the essential principles is to look for someone who has a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. It signifies a necessary principle for all Christians. What does the scripture say about the importance of marriage? As Christians, we have an obligation to live a lifestyle from a biblical perspective, and to do so, we have to follow what the word of God teaches. The word of God plays a significant role in honoring the institution of marriage. The Bible explicitly teaches that God created marriage. In the Old Testament, we see this epic story unfold when the first wedding ceremony took place in the Garden of Eden with Adam and Eve. The word of God declares to us in the book of Genesis:
Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh (Genesis 2:24).
This particular scripture gives the best explanation of marriage in the Bible. Let us investigate this verse of scripture for a moment. First, it tells us who should be looking for a wife. Therefore, a man, the keyword here being a man, represents an individual who is mature, spiritual, confident, masculine, a provider and protector. The man in this verse is someone who has all of the characteristics of a good God fearing man. He is ready to get married, so he starts looking for a wife. Please pay close attention to this scripture, and you will see the full instruction or marital picture unfold and displayed fully in this verse.
Secondly, the man must leave, which identifies the man to be in transition. He is transitioning from a single life to a married life, and so he makes an important decision to leave his father and mother. This part of the scripture shows us the model of a whole family, the type of model family that God intended for us. Both parents raise their children together in a Godly Christian home. Fathers and mothers play a significant role in their children’s developmental stages. It is crucial that the father helps in the development of his son from a boy to a man. Babies are born, but men are developed. It takes a man to teach a boy how to become a man. Some of these men have it twisted; don’t think that because you are an adult, it make you a man. It does not give you manly authority or approval. You might be able to identify with your gender or masculinity, but it takes a mature man to groom you into manhood. The Apostle Paul knew this and he spoke to these childish men in the city of Corinth.
“When I was a child, I spake as a child, understood as a child, thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things” (1Corinthians 13:11).
We see from this scripture that the child went through the process of maturing from boy to man. The key point here in this verse is: “when I became a man, I put away childish things.” This verse indicates that a boy does not look for a wife, a mature man does.
Most male were not guided on how to become men, and so we find that a lot of them are not mentally developed or mature, due to a lack of good parenting and role models. The man leaves his father and mother and cleaves or attaches to his wife. To what, or to who is he then cleaving? He is leaving or detaching himself from his mother and father and cling to his wife. His new family should be the number one priority in his life; his new family comes before his mama, dad, sisters, brothers, friends, church, and his ministry. He cleaves to his wife who is now in his life to complement him and help him meet his needs and accomplish his goals. The two shall become one; this is the process by which they are learning, growing, and building friendship and trust in each other. This stage of marriage is always the most difficult. Two people who are completely different in their social, cultural, and economic background fall in love and are now working together to co-exist in a marriage. Only God has the power and the intelligence to orchestrate such a master plan. Finally, they become one flesh refers to consummation through sexual intercourse, which is the deepest level of intimacy between two people. During sex, couples enter into a blood covenant as the soul, spirit, mind and body copulate as one. The word intercourse means contact, communication, interaction, and association, which explains how the one flesh takes place. The woven and fusing of the marriage occur through sexual intercourse, two flesh becoming one.
In the eyes of God, they are now one flesh; two different souls are united together. Do you see the importance of why sex outside of marriage is not the will of God for your life? The moment there is an act of sexual intercourse, the two become one flesh, whether you are married or not. A sexual encounter is a gateway to the tying of one soul to another person. Marriage is an amazing gift from God to a man and woman. Two individuals fall in love, get married, and become one by sharing their entire lives together. The Bible calls it one flesh, the fusing of two lives as one. The love between a man and a woman is one of the most amazing things two people will ever experience in their lives. Falling in love and getting married is one of the most fascinating and engaging dramas of creation. However, it is an enormous responsibility that should not be taken lightly. No one should get into the arena of marriage without being properly prepared.
By: Dauren Francis