A Diamond In The Rough
Diamonds are one of the most precious stones on earth. For a diamond to shine and sparkle, it has to go through a process.
Diamonds are precious yet looking at it in its raw, unpolished form would make you think differently. Everything in life has to go through a process. Your marriage might be that diamond in the rough. Things are not looking bright right now, there is no spark, no gleam, no flicker and no flame. There may be some unpolished edges, dents, and kinks that need some serious work. You just have to go through the process before you can see its beauty which lies beneath the surface of all this pain. It is time to go to work on your marriage and that means going to work on yourself so you can shine brighter.
The term diamond in the rough is not a negative phrase; we all have to go through the process to become better. Inside every one of us is hidden exceptional characteristics and potentials.
The phrase is metaphorical and relates to the fact that naturally occurring diamonds are quite ordinary at first glance, but their real beauty as jewels is revealed when the cutting and polishing process is complete.
Your Marriage Will Go Through The Process Too
Your spouse might be looking at you now and thinking that you will never change, and they cannot see any good qualities in you. Maybe past hurt and pain have left scars that were not completely healed. You are still a work in progress. There is a better you deep on the inside dying to surface. It takes someone who knows your value to look past all of that and see your greatness.
Only a trained eye can appreciate the real value of a diamond. The naked eyes are unable to discern the diamond’s worth, its cut, carats, clarity, and color. The same is true about your marriage and you. Resentment, brokenness, and pain will not allow you to see its worth. You need to ask for God’s help to give you trained eyes to help you distinguish the real value of your spouse.
Let’s examine the nature of a diamond and the process used in producing the precious stone.
Diamonds are as old as the universe itself. Most of them are found deep beneath the earth’s surface and need to be excavated from molten rock, called kimberlite. On an average, more than 20 tons of kimberlite must be processed to procure just one diamond.
After the surrounding rock is crushed, what remains is the diamond in rough. The rough diamond is then cut by sawing or cleaving (splitting) along the grain of the stone. The pieces are then mounted in a fast-turning lathe where the gem is shaped roughly by a diamond-tipped tool, followed by the bruiting process, which rounds out the stones. Finally, the diamonds are polished, allowing all of their facets to emerge.
Four characteristics define the value of a diamond: their carat weight, color, clarity, and cut.
Marriage as designed, it is a precious gem. It takes time for it to develop. Diamonds do not form overnight they require time. It only takes a few minutes to get married, building a marriage requires a lifetime. Marriage is a permanent lifelong relationship.
Like a diamond, your marriage is going to get stronger under pressure. Diamond is the hardest substance on the planet earth. It takes millions of pressure over thousands of years to form.
Then the word of the LORD came to me, saying, O house of Israel, cannot I do with you as this potter? Saith the LORD. Behold, as the clay is in the potter’s hand, so are ye in mine hand, O house of Israel. Jeremiah 18:5-6
God wants to do with your marriage as the potter does with the clay. Just like the jeweler takes the rough diamond, designs it and polishes it into something special, God wants to do the same thing with you. Your marriage might be under extreme pressure right now, but God is about to release it in Jesus name. All the issues that are preventing your marriage from shining are in the hands of the master jeweler. He is going to take care of all the impurities and make you whole again.
You will love your spouse with unconditional love. You are priceless, and your marriage is valuable. The devil is the enemy of your marriage, not your spouse.
Our immersion in material survival makes it difficult for us to recognize the precious value within us. The majority of our time is preoccupied with work, eating, sleeping, paying our bills and entertaining ourselves. We spend more time worrying than we do living. Sometimes our untrained eyes do not see the value in our spouse. Your spouse has value that is the primary reason why you got married. You want to share each other’s value for the rest of your life.
You must identify the value in each other (diamond) and reach for it with unconditional love. A love which sees beyond your spouse’s flaws and issues and identifies the best in them. Great qualities are still there; you stopped digging for it. To reveal the diamond in a raw world of rock requires peeling away the outer layers, shedding unrefined habits, eliminating the inappropriate, and allowing the real you to come to the surface. And finally, this process yields the complete diamond that radiates and beautifies this world. This is the process your marriage has to go through to get to your best. Just like you both shine on your wedding day you are going to shine again.