The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is the word called “EXTRA.” So how does one become an extraordinary or spouse? And what are the requirements to be extraordinary? The answer is very simple and straightforward. You must be willing to do the little extra things that most people will not do. It is not the big things our spouse are expecting us to do that make us extraordinary. It is the little extra things we regularly do, especially when our spouse is not expecting us to do them.
The definition for Extraordinary is “beyond what is usual, ordinary, regular or common.” If you describe something or someone as extraordinary, you mean they have some extremely good or special qualities. Such as remarkable, exceptional, amazing, astonishing, astounding, sensational, stunning, incredible, unbelievable, phenomenal; striking, outstanding, momentous, impressive, memorable, unforgettable, unique, noteworthy; out of the ordinary, and unusual.
So what are some of those little things that make us so extraordinary to our spouse? Here are a few to consider.
1: Show A little Extra Care
When we show how much we care it means a lot to the ones we love. Your spouse does not care about how much you know until they know how much you care. Show them how much you care by going beyond the call of duty, helping when there is a need. Go the extra mile even though you are not asked to do so.
2: Show A Little Extra Patience
Frustration is not the key to any door, patience is. Patience is a lifelong spiritual practice as well as a way to fine emotional freedom. Patience does not mean you are weak it is the opposite. Patience shows your spouse you are willing to listen and wait for answers and then find solutions. It also shows maturity and growth. Patience helps you control feelings, greed, and selfishness towards the one you love. When you show a little extra patience, security and close bonding are develop in the relationship.
3: Pay A Little Extra Attention To Your Spouse
Respect and value what makes your spouse so unique? Remember when you were dating and courting how you could not keep your eyes off eyes other? You were magnetized by their unique character and personality. You use to give each other hundreds of compliment a day. You would pay attention to her walk, the way she sways as she walks towards you. He was your Mr.GQ back then; you use to compliment him on how handsome and sexy he is. What happens now? When was the last time you looked at your wife with eyes that pierce her soul? Without a word, she would discern that, you desired her.
She went to the beauty salon and got hair and nails done. Didn’t you notice that she put some streaks of color in her hair? Ten guys passed her on her way home and noticed her. When she walked in the house, you sit there as with the remote clueless to the beauty of your wife.
He is dress going to work he put on his nice suit and flash on his favorite cologne. He kissed you goodbye, and you could not even look away from your episode of “Real House Wife from Atlanta” to give him your undivided attention.
He walked into the office, and all his female co-workers take note of how good he smells and look, they compliment him all day long. Pay attention to each other, give compliment regularly, notice their each other especially the good things and tell them about it. It makes your spouse feel you appreciate them.
4: Show A little Extra Appreciation
Expressions of appreciation can offset marital stress. When a husband and wife make an effort to notice and acknowledge each other’s good qualities, their relationship typically improves. Even severe tension can be alleviated when spouses feel appreciated by each other Stop and take the time to let your spouse know how much you appreciate them. Mutual gratitude and appreciation can go a long way in healing many relationship problems. Daily reminders of genuine appreciation can deepen intimacy and make a healthy relationship even stronger. When a husband feels appreciated, he feels like he is unstoppable. There is no mountain that he would not climb for you. The same should go for the wife let her know how much you appreciate her. Thank her for things she does around the house regularly that you may take for granted, whether it’s cooking, getting the kids ready for school each morning, or anything else.
5: Show A Little Extra Help
I often hear this complaint “He/she don’t help out enough. Helping shows that you care. We are living in a society where both spouse work and has busy career and schedule to balance, especially if you have children. Even stay home mom need a break from her routine now and then. Do not try to find the time to help; you may not find it.
MAKE THE TIME TO HELP.
6: Show A Little Extra Loving
There is something special and magical when spouse shows a little extra loving to each other. Do not wait until bedtime to show them your love. That can often be a problem. Intimacy and passion must be felt in from your spouse regularly. Men are drawn to their spouse sexually. Wives are attracted to affection it allows them to come alive. Affection to your wife is what sunlight and water are to a flower garden; it will not survive long without it. Affection leads to intimacy, intimacy in most cases leads to a sexual or passionate encounter with your spouse. How about a warm embrace as she stands at the kitchen sink preparing dinner for the family? What about that romantic, sexy text message they were not expecting that has them laughing out so loud their coworkers had to ask if they are ok. That unexpected kiss they did not see coming. How about that lunch or dinner date unannounced? Wow! You swept him off his feet doing the little extra things that echo’s “I LOVE YOU”
7: Do A little Extra Praying
Praying together, as a couple is critical. It creates a bond that is not easily broken. Satan gets a headache whenever he sees a couple on their knees. Go to War for your marriage through prayer. It’s one of the keys that always work. Prayer is a weapon. Pray about your problems; take all of the issues you face before him. Philippians 4:5,6 says “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus”. A lot of the problem couples hold in their heart against their spouse could have been resolved had they prayed and seek God’s counsel. Do a little extra praying.
8: Do A Little Extra Saving
One of the biggest problem that most marriage faces is financial problems. Statistics show that there are more arguments about money in most marriages than there is about sex. Each spouse must learn how to be a good steward of what God blessed them with. Learn to handle your money. These are not skills we are born with these are skills we must develop. It is said that most people are ninety days away from being homeless if their income is impacted negatively. And that is not because most do not make enough income. It is because they spend more than they make. Good money management can be learned just like anything else. When there is a financial problem, it affects almost every area of your marriage, especially for the wife. She is emotionally and psychologically connected to every area of the marriage. Financial struggles can also affect how she sexually responds to her husband. Proverbs 22:7 says “ The borrower is a slave to the lender”. We must owe no man anything but to love him. (Romans 13:8) Do not be a slave to money learn to be a master of it. So do a little extra saving.
9: Show A Little Extra Support:
You may not understand the visions, goals, dreams, business ideas, or career path of your spouse. Sometimes the passion that one spouse has may not drive the other person. You might not see long term what they are seeing or envision. Don’t be a dream stealer or dream killer to your spouse. Find a reason why you need to support each other passion. Even if you don’t understand his or her WHY, Show a little extra support. When you support and encourage each other, it makes the burden lighter.
So if you show a little extra CARE, PATIENCE, ATTENTION, APPRECIATION, HELP, LOVING, PRAYING, SAVING, AND SUPPORT? Then you are becoming and EXTRAORDINARY SPOUSE.