We do a balance sheet to determine the viability of a business, to assess potential investments, and to determine financial strategies. In business, we always do a check and balance, credit vs. debit and assets vs. liabilities. Business is business, right? What about relationships? Relationships are not like a business, but shouldn’t a relationship be taken seriously? I think it is your business to make sure that your relationship is moving in the right direction. And if it is not, what are you going to do about it? A Relationship can be an asset or liability to you. Which one represents the current state of your relationship?
Relationships are often complicated, and many of you are overwhelmed with the process of finding love. I must agree that relationships should not be this difficult. But let’s be real about it if you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone you want to make sure this person qualities and personality fit what you want.
You have to know what you want in a relationship. If you don’t know what you want how are you going to get it?
Love is not blind; love has eyes it sees things, it observes behaviors and attitude. Love takes notes and compares patterns and habits. How do you know if the person you are dating or courting is a keeper? How do you know if they are a liability or an asset to the relationship?
Let me define the two words Asset means: a useful or valuable thing, person, or quality, regarded as having value and available to meet debts, commitments, or legacies.
Liability means: a person or thing whose presence or behavior is likely to cause embarrassment or put one at a disadvantage.
Here are a few key points.
1. Are They Adding Value To You?
You will know they are an asset because they add value to who you are. When you are with them, you feel a positive spirit and energy? They consistently show you qualities and behavior that makes you comfortable. They see you as a significant part of their life. They are not in competition with you they complete you. They supportive of your goals visions and dreams? They should be your biggest cheerleader. They should be on the sideline shouting out your name telling you to keep going. “Such as I got you, baby, you can do this.” They drown out the haters and the negatives voices around you because they poured all positives in you. This is what it means to be an asset in your relationship.
2. Don’t Be Selfish
One of the most pressing issues relationships are facing now is selfishness. We are living in a society that embraces individualism. We have developed habits and principles which make us think we are self-reliant. That self-centered feeling of egoism. I am not against being independent, and of course, we should be. But not at the expense of looking down on others or taking advantage of them. Your narcissistic personality is on full display, and no one in their right mind needs someone like that in their life.
3. It’s Not All About You
The reason most of you cannot find and maintain a successful relationship is too much emphasis is placed on you. You put yourself above everyone, and you get intoxicated with the (ME MYSELF AND I SYNDROME) You cannot be successful in any relationship without having the right personality and attitude.
4. Your Account Is Over Draft
Some people are just takers and not givers. You cannot succeed in anything if you don’t have a balance of both, you must give to receive. You sure will not be successful in any relationship or marriage. There are people who bankrupt their relationship before it matures into something exceptional because they are takers, not givers.
They take more from the relationship than what they put in. You have given so much, your time, energy, resources, love, money, and compassion. When it was time for them to reciprocate it to you, they had an overdraft.
Always remember a person cannot give to you what they don’t have for themselves.
Don’t let them use as an ATM machine. They are always making a withdrawal and never making a deposit. They have already overdraft on their relationship account.