7 Ways To Make Your Wife Happy
One of the most significant problems in marriages today is that both husbands and wives seem to forget what the primary needs of their spouse are and how to properly meet those needs. If the basic needs of our spouse are not met, it is very difficult for them to be happy in the marriage. Reciprocity is key to a fulfilled marriage and both husband and wife must practice the art of giving and receiving; which leads me to the question to the husbands. Do you understand your wife well enough to please her?
I think a woman is a very fascinating human being on every level. I have been married to an amazing lady for 24 years. Truth is, I am still learning about her. Nothing is more appealing and attractive to me than studying my wife, and learning how she functions as a woman. Women are very unique and yet very complex; their complexity is not a negative; it is what attracts a man to her in the first place.
It is not good for man to be alone
After God created Adam he put Adam in the Garden of Eden. His assignment was to work it and protect it. Genesis 2:15. After Adam completed all his earthly assignments God said “It is not good for the man to be alone, I will create for him a helpmate. (Genesis 2:18) The man needed your help and that is the Key reason why God created the woman. It was not because of loneliness and sexual desire as most people think why the man needed the woman. Adam needed help; God’s final creative plan was not completed until the woman was created.
God put Adam to sleep and took a rib from Adam and created the woman.
It is important that men know what kind of rib they choose to be a wife. Are you breathing easy in the marriage or are you having difficulty breathing?
I will call you woman.
Adam woke up out of his sleep and saw this beautiful woman on display. The bible says God presented the woman to Adam. Adam looked at her and said you are bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh; I will call you woman because you came out of me. It is important for the man to study who came out of him. Here are a few important things you need to know to better understand and serve your wife.
1. She Wants You To Lead Her
A man’s most important responsibility is to be the guide, protector, and provider for his wife and children. This is a role by divine origin. The Holy Scriptures designate man as the head of the family. This does not mean you are her boss. She doesn’t need a boss; she already has one at work. What she needs is a kingdom man who is a leader she can rely on. A boss sits down and tells people what to do, but a leader shows others what to do by leading by examples. Adam was a kingdom man who led his wife. He was the provider, protector, and priest over his home. Notice that God gave Adam work before he gave him a wife (Genesis 2:15.) A woman is attracted to a man who knows how to work and take care of his family. Security is very important to a womans well-being.
2. Communicate To Her
The first thing Adam did was communicate with Eve. Adam was delighted to see the beautiful woman that came out of him. He was more interested in speaking to her than touching her body. He realized that a womans highest level of intimacy is not sex but through authentic relationship. Husband, learn to show interest in your wife through nonsexual communication. Don’t wait until bedtime to show interest in her. Good communication is an important part of all relationships and is an essential part of any healthy partnership. All relationships have ups and downs, but a healthy communication style can make it easier to deal with conflict, and build a stronger and healthier relationship. By definition, communication is the transfer of information from one place to another. In relationships, communication allows to you explain to someone else what you are experiencing and what your needs are. The act of communicating not only helps to meet your needs, but it also helps you to be connected in your relationship. Communication is one of the attributes of the woman. Any husband who learns how to communicate with his wife effectively, will win her heart.
One of the number one things a woman looks for in a man is trustworthiness. This means you are who you say you are and you do what you say you are going to do. A wife wants to know that her husband is reliable and accountable. Why is trustworthiness so important? It is the kind of quality in a man that makes a womans heart soar. A womans safety and well-being for her and her children always depends on her partner’s trustworthiness. It is what allows the woman to feel safe and vulnerable with you, knowing you are capable of protecting her.
4. Listen To Her
Women love to communicate by nature and she is going to talk to you more than you want. Learn the art of listening. Listening is not a skill you are born with; it is a skill you must learn to develop. If you know how to master listening, you will have a relationship with your wife that surpasses what you can ever dream of. Women are emotional by nature and so they need to talk to express their feelings. It is very therapeutic for her when she can freely express herself; it releases stress and frustration. When you listen to your wife, she feels close to you. When you make love to your wife, you get close to her. Two different languages, but the same result.
Listening is a very important part of effective communication. A good listener can encourage their partner to talk openly and honestly. Tips for good listening include:
5. Study The Rhythm Of Her Body
“Both man and woman bodies are rhythmic in many ways. We breathe rhythmically, our hearts beat rhythmically, our walking strides are rhythmic, our brain waves are rhythmic, our sleep-wake cycles are rhythmic, and much of our endocrine (hormone) systems are rhythmic. However, women are more complicated rhythmically than men, as their hormone levels rise and fall during each month with their menstrual cycles.” Excerpt From “The Man’s Guide To Women” by John Gottman, PhD
Understand her menstrual cycle and the rhythms of a woman’s hormones, and you will understand much of what makes her tick—and what ticks her off.
Most men don’t have a clue about their wives’ body. The woman’s body is one of the most fascinating things to explore. If you understand her body you will be better equipped to serve her. I think that is one of the reasons why God put the man to sleep while he created her. He wanted the man to get to know who came out of him. He wanted the man to be amazed when he opens his eyes. Well Lord, you sure surprised us we are not disappointed at all.
Your wife body is different from a man not just in shape but how it also functions. The woman has a womb the man don’t. The man has the seed and the woman has the whom. She carry’s your seed and bring it to fruition
The woman body produces three hormones called Estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone. Estrogens are a group of sex hormones that promote the development and maintenance of female characteristics in the woman’s body.
Why is estrogen important?
Estrogen helps bring about the physical changes that turn a girl into a woman. This time of life is called puberty. These changes include:
• Growth of the breasts
• Growth of pubic and underarm hair
• Start of menstrual cycles
Estrogen helps control the woman menstrual cycle and is important for childbearing. This hormone has other functions:
• Keeps cholesterol in control
• Protects bone health for both women and men
• Affects her brain (including mood), bones, heart, skin, and other tissues
Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS)
Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is a combination of emotional, physical, psychological, and mood disturbances that occur after a woman’s ovulation, typically ending with the onset of her menstrual flow. The most common mood-related symptoms are irritability, depression, crying, oversensitivity, and mood swings. This is the time when your wife wants to be alone are needs you. In most cases, they want to be alone. She is not rejecting you her body is responding differently to her hormone changes.
6. Love Her
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for her. (Ephesians 5:25). How should a man love his wife? (1) He should be willing to sacrifice everything for her, (2) make her well-being of primary importance, and (3) care for her as he cares for his own body. Wives should not fear submitting to a man who treats her in this way.
Love for her is just as important as Respect is for the man. God did not tell the wife to love you because loving you is easy for the wife. It is part of who she is. When a woman love they are giving everything their mind, body emotion and will. A man can separate the emotion and deal with the woman from a sexual level. It very difficult for the woman to compartmentalize the two. That’s why it is important for the man to love her.
7. Affection and Intimacy
Affection and intimacy are important to your wife. The problem with most husbands is they want to show intimacy and affection in the bedroom and that is NOT where it takes place for the woman. Affection must take place throughout the day. Tell her how beautiful and attractive she is, pay attention to her. Your wife is interested in sex, but not in the way you are thinking. For the woman, it is intimacy first then sex.
Men often see sex as a way of getting closer to his wife and possible please her. You are 100% wrong if this is your approach. Most men think that a good night of pleasure can make everything right with his wife. Focus on intimacy and affection and you will have more time in the bedroom. Affection leads her to intimacy and intimacy takes both of you to the bedroom.