Christmas is just around the corner, and it can be a tough time of year, especially if your marriage is hurting.
Rather than face what they are going through, many couples mask their pain and emotions to get through the holidays. The stress of the holiday seasons can hold you back, and it can even put added pressure that drives you farther apart.
If this sounds like your story, I want to impress upon you not to wait for the new year to fix your marriage. It might be too late then by the time 2018 comes around. Whatever is threatening your marriage, please make an effort to work on it now.
Now is not the time to sit back and watch things happen. Stop pretending and start to address the severe issues threatening your marriage Right Now!. Here’s how:
Most people think that people they rely on for help are too busy during the holidays to listen to anyone, you are wrong. A counselor, mentor, pastor, or trusted confidant all want to see you succeed in your marriage. Someone will find the time to listen to you. However, you have to be willing to seek help. It is said, “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”
Let God lead you to victory in your marriage. He will direct your path if you let Him.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3: 5,6
No one wants adversity, trials, disappointments, sadness, and heartaches.
You have done it your way far too long it is now time to let the holy spirit guide you.
If you offend your spouse just say “I am sorry, please forgive me.” These six simple words can go a long way. Severe issues in a marriage or relationship require healing, and one of the most effective strategies is to find it in your heart to forgive and if you are the offended you ask for forgiveness . Forgiveness has unique ways and beauty secrets to follow in the healing process. Forgiveness does not mean you automatically forget the wrong that was done to you; it shows that it can’t hurt you anymore. You have come to a higher level of understanding and maturity. In other words this issue will not stop you from living anymore. You are ready to move on from the pain of holding on it.You are ready to live your best life without regrets and this will not be a endurance in your life anymore. You are ready for the next step and forgiveness is the start to a greater you.
Please don’t believe that picture-perfect marriage you see on Social Media. Husband and wife are always taking pictures that look so perfect and flawless. It can be tempting to think everyone marriage is problem free but yours. If anyone is married for more than 24 hours, you already know that there is no perfect marriage and no marriage is conflict free. Your marriage is not perfect, but you are perfect for each other. Focus your time and energy on building yourself and your marriage. You will go through some trials, but it is how you deal with it that matters. You want to stay off social media during this process of healing and reconciliation. Keep your mind focus on getting better. Don’t allow outside distraction to smear your progress.
Too often reconciliation in marriage is short-lived because of the wrong reasons. If you are only doing it for the sake of the children, it won’t work. If you are ignoring the real problem, then you are merely pacifying the pain and not dealing with fixing the problem to better serve each other in marriage. Your children are important to you, but your marriage is most important right now. If your spouse feels you are not sincere or if your reasons are authentic then all you did means nothing. if you do it for each other and the marriage is restored everyone wins. In the end, the children will benefit more.
Maybe this is the holiday season to stay local. As matter of fact, it might be better for you to spend the holiday only with your family. Having a big gathering or attending one might not be the best thing to do. That nosy sister of yours might bring up some unwelcome issue that stirs up old pain. Your mama is always chattering and comparing all her children. Their is always one at almost every family gathering who will say something that causes tension among family. This might not be the right time to associate with everyone. They know too much about what is going on and your job is to protect your spouse first. Think about ways you can help each other now. When the new year comes you would have made progress rather than just getting started. Don’t miss this opportunity to start the new year right by start working on your marriage now.