6 Tips to Help Your Marriage Survive the Holidays
The holidays can be a very stressful time of the year. There are so many aspects of the holiday seasons that can overwhelm you and put added stress on your marriage.
The traditional way of embracing the holiday seems to be a thing of the past. And we see the emotional, psychological and financial effect it now has on marriages. But here are a few tips that can help you to survive the holidays.
1: Plan Together
Planning for the holidays with your spouse is critical to your success. Let your spouse know what your expectations are and how you expect to accomplish them this holiday. There is nothing better than enjoying the holiday season knowing you made the proper planning and preparation.
Whatever you do, please do not surprise your spouse with any unexpected things at the last minute.
For example, don’t invite extra guest over for dinner and tell your spouse at the last minute. It’s already stressful that her in-laws are coming. Make sure all the major plans are done together. Teamwork makes the dream work. When you work together as a team, you are taking ownership together. The responsibility is shared, and no one person is fully responsible or blamed if it does not work out. You win and fail together.
2: Plan Financially
Do you and your spouse have a holiday budget? Do you plan how much you are going to spend on gift buying? I think that psychologically we are programmed to think we have to give an expensive gift or on the receiving end of gift giving.
This is the most significant stress area during the holidays. Money issues can ruin your holidays, and most couples get caught up in spending money they don’t have to impress people who don’t even appreciate the sacrifice made to get them a gift.
If you are paying for this year Christmas next come next year you are definitely doing something wrong.
3: Try To Avoid Conflict
Remember stress level can be high at this time of year and so try not to get into arguments with each other. Be proactive and think before you speak. Do not make a mountain out of a molehill. The truth is anything can cause an argument when we are stress. Even something that was meant to be funny.
4: Don’t Put Family Before Your Spouse
For some of you, your family look to you for support for everything. Please don’t get so caught up in being Mr. Nice Guy to everybody that you neglect your responsibility at home. Charity begins at home. Your mom wants to help your help. Your sisters, brothers, sons, daughters, cats, dogs and even the goldfish need your help. However, when your home is taken care of, everything else should be much easier to manage.
Even with giving gift don’t buy family and friends more excellent gift than your spouse. They are definitely watching to see how they stock up against others.
5. Don’t Forget The Real Reason For The Season
With everything becoming so commercialized during the holidays we often forget the real meaning for the season. Christ is the reason for the season. It is not about our gift giving and receiving. It is about God sending His son who became our ultimate gift. He is the gift that keeps on giving.
“For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counselor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.” Isaiah 9:6 (KJV)
6. Give Love and Affection
Don’t get so busy that you don’t find the time to enjoy each other. This is an area that you don’t have to spend money on. Write cute notes about how you feel about your spouse and put them in places you know they will find them. This is the time of year to be jolly. Watch lots of Hallmark Christmas Movies together while you share the same blanket. Sip wine or drink tea while we watch Christmas movies. This creates abound that will be carried over into the new year,
Wishing you all a wonderful holiday season.
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