My wife and I love taking long distance road trips. Road trips bring out the best in us. Our last road trip was from our hometown in New York City to Virginia Beach, VA. Getting to our destination the trip covered over 350 plus miles, and over 6 hours of driving. We needed to spend some quality time together, and this is one of the many ways we like to enjoy our time together. Just me and her, no one else. Our boys are grown now; the older is twenty-one, and the younger is fourteen. Our babysitting days are over. Come on baby! Let’s hit the road baby! It was a trip of a life time. We rekindled a lot of chemistry and many memories on our way there.
If you are planning a road trip, it means that both of you want to spend some alone time together. If you are not on the same page right now the fact that you are planning a road trip together will get you on the same page. You will have all the time in the world to move closer to each other. The truth is this might just be what your marriage needs.
Here are some of the benefits of making a long distance trip as a couple.
There is something special about taking a long distance journey with your spouse. It has more benefit than you know. Here are some of the reasons my wife and I enjoy these trips so much.
Going on a long distance trip allows the privilege of spending quality time together. Finding time to do the things that keep the marriage moving in a positive direction can be very challenging. With the demand for work and other things fighting for your time, it can get real crazy real fast. Most couples have careers, and finding quality time is not always very easy to do. If the wife is a stay at home mom, that can be stressful too. Most couples’ day to day schedule revolves around the kids, jobs, and business.
When you are on the road, it is just the two of you, no rushing to pick up the kids, take them to after-school activities, do homework, and get dinner done. On a road trip, you kind of own your time and you can use it your way. You are using it by spending quality time with the one you love. With over six hours of driving to our destination, we took advantage of the opportunity to enjoy the breath of fresh air and get to know each other all over again.
My wife loves when I take her on the road. One problem though she doesn’t want to help with the driving. She wants to let down her hair, let it blow in the wind, put her feet on the dashboard and just enjoy the time spent together. She helps with driving when I insist, but she enjoys the ride more when her man is behind the steering wheel.
We play our favorite love songs and do sing along as we cruise down the highway. The best part of our trip is not getting to our destination, but the experience and the time spent enjoying the journey. Are you enjoying the journey of your marriage? If not, a road trip might just be what you need.
When we go on a road trip, we often drive down Memory Lane Boulevard. This boulevard provides us with the memories of our life together. Memory Lane Boulevard is a slower way to get to where we are going because there are so many places we visit on Memory Lane Boulevard. We like to play a game that we call “Remember When.” The rule of this game is simple, and that is to remind your spouse about positive things that happened years ago in your marriage. On memory lane, no negatives are allowed, or you will get a fine, you will get pulled over by a positive cop for violation. We reminded each other how we started dating, our first kiss, when I proposed to her, and all the funny and laughable experiences we had in our 23 years of marriage journey. There were moments while driving down Memory Lane Boulevard, when a memory, that was not positive, wanted to send us a reminder, but the positive cops were there to remind us to stay positive.
On the road you have fewer distractions; the focus is now on each other. You are not trying to please everybody; it is you, your lover, and the open road. One of the major problems marriages are facing now is how easy we get distracted from the important things in our lives. We seem to major in the minor and minor in the major area that needs our time and attention. Such as our spouse, children, health, finances and our relationship with God. These areas are critical, yet we barely find time to attend to them faithfully. You and your wife will not have to compete with your cell phone or social media. It is just you and her doing what is so needed. On these trips, minimize all possible distractions and give the time and attention to each other which you both so badly need.
When you are driving long distance, it gives you the opportunity to talk to each other. Some of you have not had a really good conversation with your spouse in a long time. As a matter of fact you can’t remember the last time they made you laugh. When is the last time your spouse told you something so funny that it made you laugh so hard you could hardly breathe? When is the last time they did something so funny that you had to beg them to stop because you could not hold it together?
Road trips will get you talking. It will allow you to open up like the open road in front of you. It will make you feel like you have your husband or your wife back. The edge is off, and you don’t have to try to say the right thing not to upset each other. That is not the kind of conversation and communication you enjoy on a road trip. You enjoy just being real naked and not ashamed of your conversations. You get so comfortable talking you start to say things you have not spoken to each other in years.
When you are on a road trip, you are going to be intimate with each other. There is no way you can spend all that time together talking, laughing and crying, and you don’t feel the need to be intimate. The experience you have on the journey will get you closer to each other. Intimacy is more enjoyable in the marriage when there is good communication between the two of you. Intimacy is a language that couples need to learn how to communicate to their spouse effectively. I talk to a few couples about their experience with long-distance road trips, and most of them agreed it gets their intimacy juice flowing. They told us they could not wait till they got to their hotel rooms. Something special always happened when you and the most important person in your life spent hours together. There is nothing more romantic than rekindling the passion for each other while on your journey to your destination. Enjoy the Journey or should I say enjoy the RIDE.